One of the biggest challenges for me after the split has been rebuilding my social life. With the lifestyle forced on me by Barely Husband, I ended up with no friends close by who I could call for a coffee, for example.
We were always on the move, always out doing some tour, visit or shopping; we never invited people around; I even feared going out to a certain extent not to mess up his plans.
Considering that, it’s no wonder I struggled. I have a lot to thank my writer friends for. They have put me on the path to recovery by listening, not judging, being supportive and occasionally meeting up for our weekends. Sadly, as I explained before, we are spread all over the country so it’s not always easy to plan something and outright impossible to do anything on a whim.
I took on the challenge and started contacting people, old colleagues and neighbours I never really made an effort with; I have suggested nights out at work and made an effort to connect on a more personal level.
It’s paying off. I went for coffee with an old colleague last week and he helped me reconnect with another colleague who I’m seeing tonight. I went out with my team on Friday and we had a blast; It was so great that we want to turn it into something regular and are already making arrangements for mid-October.
I also have plans to go out with friends from other departments – first, a ladies afternoon in November and a Christmas outing in December.
Raven is proud of me. She is really happy when I go out and always helps me with my outfit and make-up. She knows that as much as I love her and her company, I do need to have adult friends too.
I’ll keep you all posted!