Barely husband pulled one on me today. I didn’t see it coming.
He had joked about leaving Raven with me this weekend, when he found out about me seeing my friends. That was a few weeks ago.
Today, when I got home, my daughter was all excited that her dad had called her, asking if she wanted to spend the weekend with me. Of course she said yes.
When she told me, she noticed my shocked face. She expected celebrations, which didn’t come. It’s not that I don’t want her. The problem is that I, knowing barely husband would pick her up from drama at 1pm, had all my friends book trains arriving around noon. At the time she finishes, I was going to be at the train station, from where we would go shopping and spend all afternoon out. My mind went straight to that.
It’s clear to me that he’s done this on purpose. In his sick mind, my friends and I are going out to get completely drunk and pick up some guys on the way home. He doesn’t imagine that, out of my three friends, two are in stable relationships and two are the tamest 20 somethings you will ever meet (one is both).
I ended up arguing with him, with him using his usual guilt tripping game to make me feel like crap, because “he is being so wonderful and thoughtful and I’m being a bitch about it.”
The truth is, he is using Raven as a cockblock, not thinking of her feelings for a second. He didn’t think that, if I said no, it could sound like me rejecting her.
I talked to her and explained that she won’t have my undivided attention. She cried and told me she feels bad for butting in, but she really wants to stay with me.
Things have been tense between them. I know it. I have discussed it here.
My friends listened to me ranting and were very kind. Raven is staying. She is happy, still making me millions of promises not to disturb anyone. She doesn’t really have to.
It breaks my heart to see her like that and I hate him for it.