THE BIG O

Continuation of The Missing Piece

I moved on to The Missing Piece Meets the Big O, by Shel Silverstein. I had my mouth hanging open all through it. I related so much to everything.

It starts with our Missing Piece waiting for someone to come along and take it somewhere. And loads come but there’s always something wrong: some don’t know how to roll, some don’t know about fitting, some know nothing at all.

The list is endless! Being too delicate, not looking close enough and even putting the piece on a pedestal! Too many pieces missing or with too many pieces also made an appearance. The Missing Piece tries to change, make itself more attractive or flashy, with bad results.

Finally, one came along that fit just right, but the unexpected happened: the Missing Piece began to grow! The ‘just right one’ is surprised by the growth and NOT HAPPY AT ALL! It wants the Missing Piece as it was.

At this point, tears were swelling in my eyes. The Missing Piece was dropped because it grew. Relationships are an ever evolving thing but often we do treat them as static. We change, we evolve, WE GROW! Through this growth, partners are meant to support each other but we get so stuck in what we had, how we were.

Then comes along the Big O. It’s a full circle. It’s complete and wants or needs nothing from the Missing Piece, which comes as a shock. The Big O is not missing a piece and suggests that the Missing Piece roll by itself. The Missing Piece is aghast because it’s not meant to roll by itself.

“HAVE YOU EVER TRIED?” asked the Big O.

The Missing Piece, still not convinced, argues that it has corners. The Big O simply states:

“CORNERS WEAR OFF AND SHAPES CHANGE.”

By then I was full on crying. Ugly crying.

The Big O is not moved and decides to leave, but not before saying “Perhaps we will meet again.”

The little Missing Piece lies there for a long time, doing nothing. One day it decides to move. Awkwardly, it starts, not rolling, because it’s a triangle, but with effort, pushing and balancing on it’s tips and turning.

The corners indeed wear off and it CHANGES. Until it is ROLLING! It rolls happily by itself until it bumps into the Big O.

They stare at each other in silence, check each other out and, SIDE BY SIDE, roll away together.

Watch the video for full details!

All the lessons in this story meant so much to me. A few days after I finally read them, my friend wrote to me again asking what I thought. That was over 6 months from his original message. I could honestly tell him how much I truly loved them.

It’s something I have come to realise in my own time. I am not a missing piece. I don’t want to be anyone’s PIECE. I am whole and I want to be myself ALWAYS.

Yes, I hope to be in another relationship one day, albeit a much different one. I want someone to roll by my side and support my changes; someone to support my growth and love me exactly as I am then.

I won’t identify my friend as he is somewhat shy and I haven’t asked for his permission. I still want him to know what he’s done for me means a lot.

I am rebuilding my life. I know I can do it. It will take time and effort but I’ll get there. I am impatient and would love magic solutions but I realise it’s not going to happen. I’ll take my time, I’ll follow my heart, I’ll work hard and I will meet a lovely Big O.

Watch this space!

 

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4 Comments Add yours

  1. whiskyburden says:

    That was awesome! Both stories. I will be sharing with my 20 year old daughter. Not that she needs it right now but it’s just a great story of how to be yourself and not stop growing. Adding your “story” might also help her too. Hope you don’t mind.

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    1. DFMGhost says:

      I don’t mind at all. Please share it! When I write, I always hope people will relate and learn from my mistakes. I hope people will share my discoveries and realisations and start dialogue. 😊

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  2. Zara says:

    Aw I love this!!! I so hope you meet your big O too!!! And love to hear all about it when it does happen! 👍👍🤞🤞

    Liked by 1 person

    1. DFMGhost says:

      Me too! It is amazing that a book meant for children can carry that kind of message. It spoke to me deeply and I’m working on rolling by myself. 😊

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