What I want – Part 2

A while ago, I posted about the things I wanted from a relationship. The list was very straightforward and may seem like a romantic dream. Well, it still is my romantic dream. 

However, right now, I don’t feel ready for a relationship. I don’t feel ready to be ‘on the market’ so to speak. 

It is difficult. I have more time and time alone at that. It’s still not enough time to do the things that I want. I need more ‘ME’ time, definitely. 

One thing I can say for sure is that it’s better to be alone than to compromise on a partner. I don’t want to do that. Not again. 

So what I want, if I ever find someone to share my rags with,  is:

1) Acceptance – of my choices, my sexuality and my lifestyle ;

2) Friendship – because a friend is someone who knows all about you… and still loves you. I don’t want to hide, I don’t want to be fixed. I don’t need to be fixed. I want someone who fully understands me and will be with me through thick and thin ;

3) Love – it’s that look, that touch that means everything. I want to cherish someone and be cherished in return;

4) Sexual chemistry – I cannot, by any means, compromise on this. I am a very sexual person, as I have said many times, and I need this part to be satisfied. I want someone as open to new experiences as I am. Someone who I can share my innermost desires with. Someone who will be faithful because what we share is everything. 

The list is less romanticised and considerably shorter than my last. Still, I remain alone until I have any hope of having it fulfilled. 

6 Comments Add yours

  1. This is a very good list. Take your time. Get out there only when you are ready. I think sometimes about if MS and I don’t end up together; it might be a very long time before I am interested in dating again…

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    1. DFMGhost says:

      I remember your list and us talking about compromises we can or can’t make. If I enter another relationship, these are the things I can’t compromise on. Not again.
      I always think of you and hope you find your solution together. 💖

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      1. Thank you. I think there were things that I tried to overlook in my marriage, because I didn’t want to be alone anymore, but that clearly wasn’t the right approach. I won’t make those compromises again.

        MS hits my entire list. Which is, I suppose, is why I am willing to allow him the time and space to figure out his marriage. Time will tell.

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      2. DFMGhost says:

        I know exactly what you mean and I did overlook some very important points to ‘escape’.

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  2. SimplyAboutLove says:

    Loving yourself is the first step to allowing someone new in your life.

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    1. DFMGhost says:

      I agree! I’m working on finding myself right now. I like who I am now. I’m working on loving. 😊


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