I feel defeated. I am writing on the spot. It’s not something I usually do because I like to prepare something logical and coherent to post. Right now I’m not feeling logical and coherent. I had a little breakdown today. Another argument about something very silly tipped me over the edge.

We were out and I held on. I didn’t pursue a fight. I just stayed quiet. Back at home I went to the guest bedroom. Who am I kidding? It’s my bedroom. We haven’t slept in the same bed on a day to day basis for years and, this may surprise you, it had nothing to do with our marriage crisis.

Barely husband decided one day we should sleep in separate bedrooms. He said it would be more comfortable for both, avoiding the snoring and inconvenience from different rising times. I argued against it at the time but he was adamant. He prepared the guest bedroom for him and even bought a new double bed for it. Not long after, I was the one pushed out to the guest bedroom but whatever. Sex was then reduced to when I remembered I should go after him or when he complained about the lack of it. Hell! You bloody kicked me out.

It was just one more thing to drive us apart over the years and now it suits me perfectly fine as basically I decide when to have sex and I do it for my friends with benefits purposes. It was working but last time was bad. I was left unsatiated and sexually frustrated. One more step towards the storm I have been expertly avoiding.

This avoidance comes at a cost. I feel exhausted. I use up all my energy to fight the urge to run away; to scream. I had a little meltdown. I was texting with a Wattpad friend and I told her about my blog. I broke down in tears. I cried and I cried and I cried. I’m glad she couldn’t see me but Raven could. And I hate that she feels responsible for me; that she needs to take care of me. She doesn’t! I am her mother, not the other way around.

And as I type this, tears fall freely down my cheeks again, my head is pounding and hell knows how I’m going to sleep and make it to work tomorrow.

I feel dejected.


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  1. We haven’t officially met, and I guess I would be a friend of a friend. I hit the like in support although I am sorry you are going through it. It’s emotionally draining I know. But 3 years out for me I can tell you there is life on the other side. I wish you well

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  2. I’m sorry – kicked you out into another room? It seems as though that was the beginning of your marriage crisis. I can’t even imagine. I’m sorry you are feeling so down.

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    1. MLYGhost says:

      Thank you for your support. It was one of the bad days and I’m sure it’s not over yet.
      I was kicked out then and now that things got really bad he wants me back there and I’m the one who doesn’t want it.


  3. It’s another phase you are faced with and I wish I could waive my hands and make it all go away for you.
    Do you think it is healthy for your mental state of mind to still have sex with the man that you mentally have come to resent? Do you cry afterwards because it just tears your heart apart? That is what happened to me until I could not go on. The constant contradiction of feelings and emotions is hard as you know. Everything will take its course and my heart and thoughts are with you. Big big hug ❤️

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    1. MLYGhost says:

      I cried a couple of times. I thought I had learned how to detach myself. I am completely in control of when it happens because he inadvertently has given me that power.
      I am breaking down and I hate it. I hate to feel so weak.

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      1. I know but it’s part of the process 😔. Unfortunately. It will pass though and you are in my thoughts. Big hugs xoxoxo

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  4. I’m sorry you’re feeling down… ❤ ❤ ❤

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    1. MLYGhost says:

      Bad days happen. Too often, sadly. Thank you for being here. ❤️

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  5. SimplyAboutLove says:


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  6. Sending lots of love! You’re strong! That’s what your words speak to me 💕

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