Snail’s Pace

The divorce is moving at a snail’s pace. Some quick divorce sites claim all can be done in a few weeks when both parties agree. Well, we do agree and we both want it over with; our finances are separate and we have agreed custody; we want to move on so what’s the catch? It…

Health Check

I have been due one for ages so, in my new year, I booked a consultation with a GP (general practitioner doctor, first in line for your health concerns in the UK) but not the one I was assigned to. The same clinic has a doctor who specialises in family planning and women’s health. It…

And so it starts…

I’ve done it! I have sent the application for divorce! Draconian UK law means divorces are granted by accusing the other party of wrongdoing, like adultery (I couldn’t believe the forms that required the naming of the person your partner was having an affair with!) or violence. UNLESS you have been separated for two years…

Sad Prospects

In my previous post, I mentioned the low prospects of me getting a date. It’s not just pessimism. I have found a partner in crime for going out. P is a former coworker who I had lost contact with during my lowest point in the separation, when I was very withdrawn and down all the…

Two Years…

This weekend marked the two year anniversary of when Barely Husband came back from his two week trip to spend the holidays with his family. When he came back, it was clear to me I had been happier without him. It was also the last time we had sex. The last time I had sex….

Happy Hogmanay!

For those who don’t know, Hogmanay is the Scots word for the last day of the year and is synonymous with the celebration of the New Year. Raven and I went to Scotland with some friends, to attend our favourite NYE celebration in Edinburgh. It was our fourth time and I am sure we will…

Merry Christmas!

It’s Christmas again and time has flown by this year. I feel much better than I did last year. There has been a lot of healing throughout the year and I have made a lot of changes to my life. The main difference, though, is that I have Raven with me. Barely husband has gone…

Friends with Benefits – Reversed

In the middle of our marriage crisis, I wrote here how Barely Husband accused me of treating him like a friend with benefits. I couldn’t deny it. A girl has needs too, you know… It may not have been the wisest on my part and as we drifted more and more, I still wanted sex,…

The Pursuit of… Fitness???

I have documented here my struggle with my shape. I don’t really want to say weight as I was still a healthy BMI and whenever I mentioned dieting, someone would say ‘You don’t need that! You look great!” The truth is, I had become very unhealthy, living on quick fixes and ready meals. This took…

Time flies…

Last time I scolded myself for letting two months go by without posting. Well, this time it’s been almost three months. I hadn’t even realised it. Things have improved dramatically in my end. Barely husband is gone. I helped him find a new house and negotiate the terms of a rental agreement for the property…

I Told You So…

Even though the title of this post won’t help me, it is exactly what I should be repeatedly saying to Barely Husband right now. His apartment deal fell through and he’s scrambling to find a suitable rent property to move into asap. From the outset everything seemed dodgy to me, but he had his mind…

More Pride

As you know, I went to Doncaster Pride by myself as Raven was away with her dad in Spain. She was very upset she was going to miss the festival for the second year. I was upset too because I really wanted to share the experience with her. Suddenly Manchester popped in my head. I…